Let’s face the facts. Life isn’t fair. The sooner we realize this as human beings, the better - since it enables us to begin to prepare for what’s to come.

Everything starts and ends with genetics. How do we know this? Well, here’s the scientific analysis. How often have you been told, “You’re acting just like your father?” I hear this at least once a week from my wife, mother and even my mother-in-law. As you can imagine, it isn’t always a compliment. My father’s typical response? “It’s cultural, get used to it.” There’s also a genetic component to that, but that’s another discussion.

The Importance of Genetics for Penis Size

Will your child excel at the violin? Well, is there anyone with any musical talent in the family? Want to know what the woman you’re dating will look like in 30 years? Check out her mother. It’s about as close to a crystal ball as you can get. Body shape, facial structure, intelligence, talents, abilities - it almost all relates back to your genetic makeup. And, yes, the size of a man’s penis is also dictated by genetics.

There is no single aspect of the human body that plays such a critical role in defining a man’s identity as his penis. How do we know this? Take me, for example. If I had a very large penis, during my dating years, I would have worn clear pants with an internal glowing chamber that highlighted my manhood. It’s even possible I would still wear them today on special occasions and national holidays.

So how do you combat genetics? It isn’t easy with the basic scientific remedies available to most of us. You can study hard in school, outwork your competition in your professional career, eat right and exercise to transform your body.

I’m not going to debate whether it is possible to enlarge your penis. There are all sorts of medieval-looking torture devices that can stretch out your manhood. However, these products are not mainstream and never will be—and in fact, many really don’t work. Just ask the Mayo Clinic.

Can Herbal Supplements Make Your Penis Bigger?

And the herbal supplements that claim to make your penis bigger? Just think for a minute about how absurd this is. If there was a pill - any pill - that actually made your penis bigger, it would be given to men at birth. The father would insist upon it, no matter what the cost. Forget about the Gerber Life College Fund, he needs that penis-growing pill now. Just like a pill won’t make you taller, it also won’t increase the size of your penis. So save your money.

Does Penis Size Even Really Matter?

I’m not here to argue that size doesn’t matter - it does, given our whole discussion to this point. However, the strength of your penis matters just as much, if not more. How hard your erection is and how long you are able to perform impacts your partner’s sexual experience more than the size of your penis alone. This is a fact.

Penis Strength Does Matter for Sexual Performance

Unlike genetics, the strength of your penis, and the pelvic muscles that support the penis, is something you can control. You can work out your penis with Kegel exercises for men. Regardless of your age or condition, strengthening your pelvic muscles has a direct impact in improving your sexual performance and reproductive health.

However, if you won the genetic lottery and are blessed with a large penis, you are not immune to potential problems lurking just below the surface. In fact, you may be even more at risk as you age. One of the only downsides of a large penis - I’ve been told - is that it is difficult to keep it really hard. In fact, it takes more pelvic muscle strength to hold blood in the penis and ensure rigidity. As the pelvic muscles weaken over time, loss of rigidity may become even more of an issue for the well-endowed male.

So what can you do? Start now, and begin working out one of your most important muscle systems. Men of all ages, whether completely healthy or experiencing sexual, urinary or bladder conditions, can learn all about the importance of your pelvic muscles and how to exercise them at The Private Gym for Men.

Also, Dr. Andrew Siegel, one of the nation’s leading urologists and co-founder of The Private Gym, teaches you about these muscles in his acclaimed book, Male Pelvic Fitness, Optimizing Your Sexual and Urinary Health.